From Underearning to Abundance » failure http://www.fromunderearningtoabundance.com How to leave the darkness of Underearning for a bright life of Abundance Wed, 09 Feb 2011 05:56:03 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.2 Are New Year’s resolutions doomed to fail? http://www.fromunderearningtoabundance.com/2009/12/are-new-year%e2%80%99s-resolutions-doomed-to-fail/ http://www.fromunderearningtoabundance.com/2009/12/are-new-year%e2%80%99s-resolutions-doomed-to-fail/#comments Tue, 29 Dec 2009 21:15:47 +0000 ElinAnna http://www.fromunderearningtoabundance.com/?p=225 Continue reading →]]> If your New Year’s resolutions have failed in the past, then you are in the majority.  The fact is that most people who make New Year’s resolutions fail to keep them.  Well, we might have suspected that this would be the case.  Now a group of researchers at the University of Hertfordshire in England have shown that it is actually so.  The main reason they found is that most people focus on how awful it would be to fail.  In their attempt to keep their New Year’s resolution, people half heartedly try to fight their temptations and only dream of reaching the goal.  Then they look for someone who supposedly reached the goal, plaster their picture up for motivation.  plaster their picture up on their wall or refrigerator for motivation in the hope that this will help.  On top of everything else, people put their trust only in their own willpower to get them where they want to go and don’t make any plans for how to get there.  This a sure way to fail at your New Year’s resolution.

So now you know how to increase the probability of accomplishing your New Year’s resolution.  Do the opposite of the failure described above.  Follow what the researchers found by doing the following:

  1. Make a plans for how to achieve your goal
  2. Involve others (get support and accountability)
  3. Focus on how positive it will be when each small step of your plan is reached
  4. Keep a journal over the journey to help you understand your successes so you can do them again!

and you will drastically increase the probability of reach your new year’s resolution.

So good luck and have a great New Year!

Love and peace,

ElinAnna

]]> http://www.fromunderearningtoabundance.com/2009/12/are-new-year%e2%80%99s-resolutions-doomed-to-fail/feed/ 0 The Inner Critic http://www.fromunderearningtoabundance.com/2009/07/the-inner-critic/ http://www.fromunderearningtoabundance.com/2009/07/the-inner-critic/#comments Fri, 10 Jul 2009 15:42:52 +0000 ElinAnna http://www.fromunderearningtoabundance.com/?p=150 Continue reading →]]>

My hypercritical inner critic has been working overtime lately. Although I have been able to write, it has been difficult in getting it past the critic. My inner critic demands perfection and does not allow any flaws. As a result I have been running in circles around the critic trying to please him. It is exhausting and feels like everything I do is flawed. I ask myself: How come other people can do such amazing things and I can’t? My critic is quick to answer: They are also flawed, and then points out all the flaws. Now this is getting ridiculous and absurd. If everyone is flawed and what they do is such a failure, how can we have the wonderful things and experiences that are so much fun?

Then I remembered a quote by George Bernard Shaw: “When I was a young man I observed that nine out of ten things I did were failures. I didn’t want to be a failure, so I did ten times more work.”

So this is how great people do great things, I thought to myself. No wonder not much is coming from me. I am behind in doing things, both the failures that are nine out of ten and the success that is one out of ten. It takes practice and perseverance to get to the tenth.

Now when the critic starts I thank him and point out to him that this is what is needed to get to the good stuff. If a great writer like George Bernard Shaw had these odds and kept on going, why wouldn’t you and I?

As an underearner we are usually hard on ourselves and good at putting ourselves down. So, what I am learning from this is that I have to keep going. The Noble laurite who became a wealthy man used this method and I why shouldn’t I? It is by keep on doing and learning that I can live a life of abundance.

Love and peace,

ElinAnna

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